I really hate what the media and people have done to women and in particular one woman in my life. I know I am a little partial to believing my wife is beautiful. If I wasn’t I probably wouldn’t deserve her. But she is beautiful and is far from being FAT!!!
So a few years ago I was part of the lucky group (40%) laid off from AdBrite as part of the infamous Sequoia backed company layoffs of ’08 (this deck lead to them). I was just playing with the Facebook Timeline and came across a “note” I had posted in regards to a status I had made right after the layoffs. I still think in many ways this is true…. I would change some of the verbiage today if I was writing it, but feel like much of the oxymoron remains. So unedited and unabridged is this rant from the past brought to you courtesy of the new Facebook Timeline feature: Continue reading
So it has been forever since I actually wrote on my blog. I decided to start somewhat fresh and just pulled in a few posts from some previous blogs I had written. For any of you who know me personally, on Facebook, Twitter, or LinkedIn, you know that I have had some crazy health issues lately. I won’t go into too much detail about them right now, but suffice it to say I was basically in bed for over two months and not able to work for 3. Things have improved some but the biggest thing this has brought about is a change in perspective for me in my life.
I was forced into the realization recently that I didn’t have a lot of control in my life right now. I was able to spend a lot of time thinking (yes it hurt), and reflecting on my life and the people around me. It took me 3 months but finally one day I decided I needed a knew motto for my life:
Change is the one constant in life…. quite the oxymoron but definitely true. In my life I have a few more things which I consider to be a constant. My love for Autumn (and hopefully her love for me). I know the purpose of life which does not change either. but the circumstances, our surroundings, our jobs, cars, houses, clothes, shoes, food, and something I think is one of the hardest to change is the people in our lives.
I don’t know anyone who had ever gone through life without having “friends” who have not always helped ujs move our life in a better direction. For some of us it is ex something-or-others, for others it may be people we went to school with or worked with. They came into our lives under the guise of friendship, and caring about us but if we stepped back we would see that most of the time friendship to them meant getting what they wanted. I know I have experienced this personally with some of my “BEST FRIENDS”. They were there for me when it was convenient for them… When I needed them they never seemed to “have the time” or be able to return phone calls.
There are also those in our lives who for some odd derranged human flaw we have built into us… we actually believe care about us. We trust them! We look up to them and call them our “friends”, “our lovers”, or our “significant others”. They “know” our dreams and our goals and what we have said would make us TRULY happy deep down inside, and yet they do sometime things that are obvious… sometimes things that seem “innocent”, or they say they didn’t realize would hurt us… that keep us from being happy. The person who uses maybe money to influence us…. the person who knows that you have a weakness for a particular substance and pushes you towards it…. Step back don’t allow them to do it. If they do not help you be better and truly work towards your dreams then they are NOT your friends! time to go out let the past be the past. Learn to live in the present and move on! Go out and find true friends. Look inside you and ask “why do i feel like i can’t let go of these people?” Why do i feel like i need to be friends with this person or be accepted by them even though i know they may not be the best for me? Look inside start to change there and get rid of influences and people in your life who are not going to help you get where you want to be. Now I am not saying don’t help people who are down and out. Charity is very important… but there is a difference between charity, and welfare. A difference between friendship and abuse or co-dependence.
Change is not easy change is hard even GOOD changes…. right now we are going through a lot of change…. My father just passed away…. I got Married to the most beautiful, patient, supportive, loving (and sexy) woman in the universe. Autumn you are everything i ever wanted and more!
We are moving out of our house to downsize, I am starting a new job…. life is full of change and each day(in reality each second) is a new chance to look at our lives and decide Whether we are where we want to be. If we are not if we are not on path to our goal, those dreams which reflect our inner truths, then we should change.